You deserve to be loved without having to work for it

When you grow up in an environment where you need to perform or behave a certain way in order to get approval and love from your primary caregivers (oftentimes, parents), as an adult you will have the subconscious tendency to keep overgiving in attempt to fill the void that may result from not getting that energy from others.

In other words, loving and accepting yourself AS YOU ARE is almost impossible when you had no experience of love without conditions as a child. In order to make this happen, first you have to experience what it would feel like to be in a space of pure love, free of expectations. This takes time, imagination, guidance and support. There is a specific technique in ThetaHealing (an energy healing modality) to download these types of never-before-experienced templates, but mindfulness practice, reiki, even Yin yoga and certainly Meta or Loving-Kindness meditation tools can help with this.

Remember, you deserve to be loved without having to work for it.